Success Stories

I hope this page is reassuring for you. Given the world we now live in I wouldn’t blame you for being a little suspicious of testimonials and success stories. That’s only sensible. I’m known for my often brutal honesty and in that vein I want to assure you that these stories are true. You have my word on it. I have of course had to change the names for confidentiality and ensure that everyone quoted was comfortable having their feedback on this page.

“We had tried marriage counseling before, more than once. Unsuccessfully! I knew I did not want to separate and break up our family, but I did not understand what was wrong and more importantly felt powerless to fix things. I was both cynical and very reluctant the first time we met Michael. I was not sure anyone could help us.

I was proved wrong. The impact Michael has had on us has been more than we could have hoped for. After our first session I knew we had found what we needed - someone who could actually help - not waste our time and money with 'platitudes'. We learned so much about each other, about ourselves and about the issues and behaviours holding us back from having a loving relationship again - and we would never have gained so much without Michael's calm, wise and firm guidance.

I learned a great deal about myself too. It was difficult, but also liberating. Michael helped me recognise what I needed to focus on to help make Jane feel cherished, seen and safe. He also coached me on how to find fun, joy and happiness again while rebuilding that special connection with my best friend.

All I can say is thank you Michael. And to those hesitating or worrying about if there really is hope or is it worth it - trust me it is.”

Peter

“We started out with a one-day intensive following a painful infidelity on my husband's part. I had all but given up hope of us ever reconnecting.

With Michael's help we transformed how we communicated and, most importantly, we were able to re-experience the connection and affection that had been lost for years due to my husband's distancing.

Three months into our work with Michael, I realised whilst out on a romantic date with my dramatically different husband that we'd become a couple people might observe and envy.
We cannot thank Michael enough for his help during this heartbreaking time in our marriage. I can honestly say we are stronger now than ever before. I would highly recommend Michael to any couple struggling and in desperate need.”

Sabrina

“Hi Michael,

I just wanted to let you know you've had a very profound and sustained impact on me over these past few years. Whilst we only saw you a handful of times, I found the sessions incredibly valuable.

I just wanted to say a very heartfelt and sincere thank you for being your amazing, brutally honest, wise and thoughtful self. I loved your 'tell it how it is' approach. Keep up the amazing work you do. It definitely does have an impact, even if it takes a while to kick in.

Have an awesome weekend and wishing you all the best.
N has finally spoken his truth and I have recognised and taken responsibility for my part - we will now be able to rebuild our relationship from a foundation of trust and honest, open communication. The guidance you have given N has been a life/ game-changer, helping him to take the first and hardest steps, and finally taking responsibility for past infidelity.

He was so weighed down by shame and guilt that things were fast unravelling and becoming unmanageable for him, you have helped us to recognise a toxic generational cycle which has now been broken and can be repaired.

You have taught me to stand up with love, and to express what I want in our marriage. I feel empowered, I have my dignity back and no longer feel like a victim. And best of all after seeing what an intimate, loving relationship looks like, I want more and I won't settle for less.

So thank you for your guidance, for all that you have shared and taught us - you really are an expert at managing the delicate dance between desperately unhappy couples and helping them to be vulnerable enough to get a little closer together, so that they can hold each other through the pain and into the light. We are so incredibly grateful - thank you Michael.”

Audrey

“Before my wife and I met and started working with Michael, my marriage was over. My wife had "left the building" and only agreed to couples therapy as a means of a smoother exit to our relationship. Michael explained to her that a smooth exit was not out of the question, but a hard look at how we had gotten to such a place was where to start.

With amazing objectivity, he took us through our past as children and as a couple. For me the process was plenty painful, but I did not want to lose my wife or my kids and was willing to do just about anything to prevent such a loss. Today we are out of the dark, moving forward to a new future with a set of tools to better communicate and both feel heard.

I will be forever grateful!”

Steven

“I do not have high enough praise for Michael's work. His integrity, clarity and insight allowed my husband and I to laser cut through our years of unfinished conversations and misunderstandings in a matter of months...to the point where we now have the tools to consistently go through "Door B" as Michael would say.....to do it differently.

Our marriage had a lot of love and was a "good" relationship, but there were areas where we both felt unappreciated and "not seen". We both needed to feel loved more and within a few weeks we already started the shift in our relationship....getting traction and seeing the changes and, even more feeling more love and fun together than we'd had in years, were all the "win" that we needed to keep going.

Unlike most therapists, Michael graduated us, at what I thought was an early point and told us, that our job now was to go and "have our relationship, make mistakes and get right back out of them". He would just be a phone call away if we needed him, but he insisted that doing it with each other was the "real deal" of intimacy.

If you are a couple and you're not feeling the "love" like you used to, do THIS work.....it will change your marriage.”

Brenda

“In my 1st session with Michael I realized that Michael "got me" like no other professional ever has. Michael pin pointed issues that I have had for more than 50 years that have held me back. He has helped me to improve my life and save our marriage. Even better the work we did was respectful and a lot more entertaining that I would ever have thought possible.

Our marriage had a lot of love and was a "good" relationship, but there were areas where we both felt unappreciated and "not seen". We both needed to feel loved more and within a few weeks we already started the shift in our relationship....getting traction and seeing the changes and, even more feeling more love and fun together than we'd had in years, were all the "win" that we needed to keep going.

Unlike most therapists, Michael graduated us, at what I thought was an early point and told us, that our job now was to go and "have our relationship, make mistakes and get right back out of them". He would just be a phone call away if we needed him, but he insisted that doing it with each other was the "real deal" of intimacy.

If you are a couple and you're not feeling the "love" like you used to, do THIS work.....it will change your marriage.”

Bob

“Kate and I would like to thank you for the work you have done with us. Our transformation using your strategies and meeting with you have been nothing short of life changing. Many thanks again Michael”

Warren

“Me? Get help with my marriage? You're joking right? After 55 years of 'doing all my own stunts' I honestly believed asking for help was a sign of weakness. But with my marriage at rock bottom and divorce looking like the only option, I was desperate. After a long, long talk, my wife outlined all the ways she was not willing to live with me a day longer. I convinced her to give our marriage one last chance and after much research, we 'bet the ranch' on Michael's two day intensive. I won’t lie to you, if you’re thinking of doing it, it was the toughest 2 days of my life. But it was also the best. Thanks to Michael refusing to let me BS my way through the various conversations and exercises, my wife and I finally discovered why we were stuck in a shitty cycle. I was very happy to find that it was the cycle that was the problem... Not me. Long story short, thanks to working with Michael I still have the relationship I always wanted with my wife and my family. Thank you, Michael.”

David and Betty

“Michael I really appreciate you following up.
I do know you tried very hard and I appreciate that so much. The fact you couldn't save my marriage is sad but as you said sometimes people aren't meant to be together.

My brain tells me that I will get through this, but at the moment my heart is telling me otherwise.

I am determined to have a good and better life and I will work very hard to do that.
You are a pretty amazing person and very talented at what you do and I congratulate you for that. I will be for ever thankful for the part you played in the most difficult time of my life so far.

I wish you all the very best.”

Lynsey

“Michael is a truly great marriage counsellor.
He sized up my marriage faster than any therapist we've seen before (and we've seen a few), and we made more progress in 3 months with him than I thought possible. I understand where my wife is coming from more than ever before which is amazing.

I no longer feel our marriage is at deaths door. I would highly recommend him to any couple who is struggling.”

Martin

“Michael knows exactly how to get a couple out of trouble and is fearless.
Before working with Michael I was very sceptical about therapy for couples and did not believe that any outsider could fully understand me, my partner or our situation well enough to be of help. At best, I expected clichés and a quick fix that would wear out after a short time. Michael is different and not at all what I had imagined in my cynical mind.
He knows exactly how to get a couple out of trouble and is fearless, original and talented in his approach. Michael has provided permanent solutions that have eliminated the stony silences and my dark moods of the past. My home is once again a place of light , laughter and love – a sanctuary that I genuinely return to with excitement and anticipation. I can never thank Michael enough – he has saved me from myself and saved my relationship with my best friend and lover.”

Chris