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Michael Myerscough

Founder of The Reconnection Institute®
“Failed relationships are like a bullet wound. They make a small neat hole on the way in, but a massive mess on the way out. I’d love to help you avoid that mess.”

Who I work with

I work with couples in crisis. Not couples who want a tune-up. Couples who are running out of road: where an affair has just come to light, where years of sexual and emotional disconnection have finally broken something that can’t be ignored, where one partner is already halfway out the door.

I am unambiguously pro-marriage. Not because divorce is shameful, but because I’ve watched too many couples mistake a repairable marriage for an irreparable one. If there are children involved, you and your ex will be co-existing at graduations, weddings, and christenings for the rest of your lives. The question is never really whether you’ll stay connected. It’s whether that connection will be a source of pain or something worth having.

I believe you can build something better. And I’ve spent 25 years proving it.

How I work

Most couples therapy follows the same sequence: fix communication first, hope everything else follows. For couples in acute crisis, particularly where sexual disconnection is part of the picture, that approach is too slow and too partial. It addresses what people say to each other while leaving untouched what’s happening in their bodies: the chronic nervous system dysregulation, the learned patterns of withdrawal and pursuit, the erosion of physical connection that accelerates emotional deterioration far faster than most therapists acknowledge.

The standard model assumes that if you repair communication, desire and physical intimacy will return naturally. For a significant proportion of couples, they don’t. Learned sexual avoidance becomes self-sustaining, independent of the original wounds. You can complete months of productive therapy, watch your conflict reduce and your friendship rebuild. And find that nothing has changed in the bedroom. That’s not a failure of effort. It’s the wrong sequence.

My work addresses the full architecture of a relationship: relational, emotional, and physical. Simultaneously, not in stages. That’s the difference. I draw on attachment theory, interpersonal neuroscience, and the leading empirical frameworks in couples therapy, including further training with Dan Siegel in Attachment and Interpersonal Neurobiology with couples. That science sits underneath everything I do. Couples choose what they work on. What they get is a clinician who can see all of it.

Michael Myerscough, founder of The Reconnection Institute. Best Relationship Counsellor & Couples Therapist In Sydney. 25+ Years Experience Founder of The Reconnection Institute and the only Master Certified Relational Life Therapy practitioner in the Southern Hemisphere. 25 years of clinical work with couples in crisis, trained directly under Terry Real, Sue Johnson's EFT framework, and the Gottman Method.

Training and credentials

Relational Life Therapy: the only Master Certified practitioner in the Southern Hemisphere

I am the only Master Certified practitioner of Relational Life Therapy in the Southern Hemisphere. I trained directly under Terry Real at the Relational Life Institute from 2007, when all training was conducted exclusively in person. I served on his faculty. At the time, certification required in-person training and direct clinical observation. That standard has since changed. For anyone in Australia looking for Relational Life Therapy at its most developed, the search ends here. Hear from Terry himself why that matters for you.
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‘The only one of these issued to a practitioner in the Southern Hemisphere. When the bar, was still the bar.’

One minute. Terry Real unguarded on Relational Life Therapy and why he’d send you here. If you’d like to see the longer version that’s here.

I completed an externship with Dr Scott R. Wooley, founder of the San Diego Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy, and hold core EFT skills training in Australia. Sue Johnson’s EFT is one of the most rigorously researched couples therapy models in existence and forms a significant part of my clinical foundation.
I am certified in the Gottman Method at Levels 1 and 2, alongside their specialist programmes in Affair Recovery, PTSD, and addiction. I use the only two infidelity recovery models with published scientific evidence behind them: Baucom, Snyder and Gordon’s integrative approach and the Gottman Trust Revival method. When I reference research in the room, I’ve studied under the people who produced it.
I completed further training with Tammy Nelson in her Integrative Sex and Couples Certification Training, work that deepened and formalised what clinical experience had already made clear: that relationship repair and sexual reconnection are not separate workstreams. They are the same workstream, addressed with different tools.
My earlier qualifications include an Advanced Certificate in Counselling and Master Practitioner certification in NLP with Richard Bandler. If you know anything about NLP, you’ll recognise that as a serious undertaking. Having come to understand that most couples need skilled coaching as much as therapy, I completed a three-year certification through Coach U, alongside the Divorce Busting intensive for marriage therapists with Michele Weiner-Davis and the Foundation in Emotionally Focused Therapy at the Bowlby Centre in London.

Public profile

The measure of longevity in this field isn’t awards or academic papers. It’s whether people keep finding you when they’re in real trouble. And whether what you say holds up under scrutiny when the cameras are on.
Channel Nine’s The Last Resort was a twelve-episode primetime commission, shot on location in Fiji with a production crew of ninety flown from Australia. Real couples. Real crises. I was selected, as the casting director put it, because I was the only therapist they’d seen who could make definitive statements on camera. The series is still available on demand.
I have been featured on 7News, 9Honey, and interviewed by the BBC. My writing has appeared in The Herald Sun, The Daily Mail, The Sunday Times, The Daily Telegraph, The Sun, The Daily Mirror, Marie Claire, Psychologies, Zest, and Cosmopolitan. A video I recorded in 2004 on heartbreak has clocked 700,000 views. It tells you something about how long people have been finding this work when they needed it most.

Results

The therapy world hedges. Outcomes not guaranteed, your experience may vary, results differ for each individual. I understand why. But it has never been how I work. I have spent 25 years in rooms with couples who had run out of options, and the job is to find a way through.
Our client feedback surveys tell a clear story: 100% satisfaction for couples who complete our one, two, and three-day intensive retreats, and 95% for initial two-hour sessions. These are self-reported figures, using the same methodology as Relationships Australia and every major counselling body in the country. The difference is our numbers. Couples travel from interstate, from New Zealand, and from as far as Botswana and Qatar specifically for this work.
The success stories on this site were written by people who sat where you’re sitting now. If you’re ready to find out what’s actually possible, contact me here.

In answer to your most obvious questions, yes, he is highly skilled, and he gets results. You can check out the success stories here. His client’s results are the best testament to the fact that you can have the relationship you want for yourself.

You can contact relationship expert Michael Myerscough to enquire further about intensive relationship coaching and find out how he can help you.